I'm currently unraveling the belief that my value as a person is based on my output. I went through a layer of this when I became a mother and for the first time, learned that my value was inherent to me as a human. Now, there's a thread tied to the idea that if I didn't work hard or it wasn't a struggle, it wasn't really earned. I'm letting myself lean into ease, enjoyment, and rest and it's amazing at the creativity that flows from that place!
I definitely carried this same belief in the past: that if it wasn't a struggle, it wasn't valuable. If I didn't suffer, I didn't deserve recognition. So curious how these beliefs get ingrained into our minds. Have you ever investigated where they come from?
I also felt a big shift in me when I started letting go of this way of approaching things. I'm so glad that you were able to lean into ease and enjoyment. Love this for you!
Indeed taking conscious of these beliefs and which part of us holds down to them, while our adult self has the proof of us being much more than what we do, is the first step to change these wired beliefs in us. 💜✨
Sending much light across ✨✨
Thank you for your posts and experiences sharing 🫶🏼✨
I have the same limiting belief, that I am valued for what I do and not for who I intrinsically am.
The fine detail is connected with family dynamics and how I was brought up in traditional struggling middle class in Portugal, but I can see that the dynamics actually come from a capitalist and patriarchal society were women have such a strong pressure on them...
Born in the 70s with a full day working mum, she fought strong to make me independent, to make sure I excelled at school, just as a way of finding a place in the world. So, generational trauma and society expectations really shaped a lot of women back then, that are still seen as good for how good they do overall - as a mum, wife or partner, at work.... At that implicit memory goes down several generations later...
Thankfully they are sprouts of new ways of seeing and being in the world, with much more respect for nature and all of the beings that are, and hopefully next generations can have a grounded feeling of their own worth, together with all other people's worth and mama nature worth, full of potential and nourishment. 💜✨
Thank you for sharing this openly Giz. It is a mix of influences as you say, family dynamics, societal expectations and generational patterns. These beliefs can really woven into our sense of self.
I like how you also point toward new ways of being. Awareness is always the first and an important step to change these ingrained not helpful beliefs. Sending much love to you! 💜
I'm currently unraveling the belief that my value as a person is based on my output. I went through a layer of this when I became a mother and for the first time, learned that my value was inherent to me as a human. Now, there's a thread tied to the idea that if I didn't work hard or it wasn't a struggle, it wasn't really earned. I'm letting myself lean into ease, enjoyment, and rest and it's amazing at the creativity that flows from that place!
I definitely carried this same belief in the past: that if it wasn't a struggle, it wasn't valuable. If I didn't suffer, I didn't deserve recognition. So curious how these beliefs get ingrained into our minds. Have you ever investigated where they come from?
I also felt a big shift in me when I started letting go of this way of approaching things. I'm so glad that you were able to lean into ease and enjoyment. Love this for you!
Hi Nathalia! Thank you for the reply 🤗✨
Indeed taking conscious of these beliefs and which part of us holds down to them, while our adult self has the proof of us being much more than what we do, is the first step to change these wired beliefs in us. 💜✨
Sending much light across ✨✨
Thank you for your posts and experiences sharing 🫶🏼✨
Hi Natalie and Nathalia! 🤗
Loved reading post and comment. ✨
I have the same limiting belief, that I am valued for what I do and not for who I intrinsically am.
The fine detail is connected with family dynamics and how I was brought up in traditional struggling middle class in Portugal, but I can see that the dynamics actually come from a capitalist and patriarchal society were women have such a strong pressure on them...
Born in the 70s with a full day working mum, she fought strong to make me independent, to make sure I excelled at school, just as a way of finding a place in the world. So, generational trauma and society expectations really shaped a lot of women back then, that are still seen as good for how good they do overall - as a mum, wife or partner, at work.... At that implicit memory goes down several generations later...
Thankfully they are sprouts of new ways of seeing and being in the world, with much more respect for nature and all of the beings that are, and hopefully next generations can have a grounded feeling of their own worth, together with all other people's worth and mama nature worth, full of potential and nourishment. 💜✨
Thank you for sharing this openly Giz. It is a mix of influences as you say, family dynamics, societal expectations and generational patterns. These beliefs can really woven into our sense of self.
I like how you also point toward new ways of being. Awareness is always the first and an important step to change these ingrained not helpful beliefs. Sending much love to you! 💜