Omgaaaah this spoke to me. As I'm currently in this cycle of "I need to leave this place to find myself and my place" and have this creeping suspicion that its more about sitting with myself, committing, and allowing myself to be known by me and the other. This was right on time!
I’m reading this article in bed in a town I’ve been wanting to leave for the last 5 years (as a Korean american expat in Germany) and can relate to your story completely. For me, it’s been about committing as well as surrendering to a higher power that’s to teach me something i need to learn in this lifetime. To make peace with yearning, and yet be present to what is now and transient. That what I ‘think’ of something, someone or place is not all it is. On a practical level, my kids are growing up here and bc they see it as their home, it’s growing into a home for me. Still I have a sense of ‘homesickness’ that’s ever present, sometimes more sometimes less. I think commitment plays a huge role, to become an active creative participant in one’s life.. so thanks for this reminder!
I can totally picture you in bed reading this and writing your comment ♥️ Thank you for sharing. I have a guess that for expats like us, we live in constant "in between", not fully from where we came from, not fully where we are. But I agree with what you said about surrendering and being present. It makes a big difference once we decide to stay present, open, and let things unfold without second doubts. Thank you for sharing Kathy!
This article is incredible! So good to read it, it resonates to me so much. This constant urge of finding the right place to fit it but in reality we’re just running from us and from our imperfections. The true beauty is know how to deal with vulnerability and still be happy and fulfilled. Thank you so much for this!
It really feels that this article was written for me 🥹 Thank you so much for sharing this, I’ve never seen anyone else do it. And it also helps so much to know that I’m not the only one who feels this way 🙏🏻❤️
For me, I’m 60 now, which I can’t believe, it’s been about connecting to my joy and happiness. To living in the moment as much as possible and no matter how simple, mundane or sometimes absolutely miserable or heartbreaking life has been…to keep and cherish the beauty of life. To stay connected to my joy, my happiness and yes my authenticity. It became less about outer and more about inner. I can make any place I live beautiful and cozy no matter how huge or how humble. I can be just as happy on a road trip or a far away trip. Choosing the people you are willing to spend your precious time with is everything. Solitude is everything. Surrender is everything. Loved your article and thoughts! Thank you!❤️🙏
Loved - and saved this article. For me Freedom is about knowing yourself, being able to choose who do you want to work/be with, how you want to make things differently and the pace of that. Definetely is commitment, not the opposite. Most times I was a prisoner of my own self-sabotaging, procrastination - and that can be paralyzing.
I would tell my young self that it would be ok. That it would be worth it, the self-knowing is sometimes hurtful but the only way to find freedom. And the commitment should always be with yourself first.
Loved this. I spent 15 years on the move in Europe. Home in New Zealand now but ... I still hadn't worked this out. And I think there are rather big elements of truth for me too. So I'll just sit with it a while, 'it's about being comfortable enough with yourself that you can show up as yourself'. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for commenting ❤️ I’m glad this resonated with you. And by the way, NZ has such a special place in my heart. I lived there when I was 17 for a high school exchange. I wish I can go back one day to visit ☺️
It was lovely to read you had lived in New Zealand, and enjoyed it. Where, if that's not too personal :-) I finally found home at the very top of the South Island, in Golden Bay ... and it hasn't been difficult to find joy & delight here. I had wondered if I would ever recover from loving my life in Italy.
I lived in Auckland, and did a bit of traveling through the south island! So beautiful. Italy sounds amazing, have only been there for holidays, but I can imagine how lively it must be. I think they are different places but each one with its unique beauties and delights!
I loved reading this and it’s made me think of my own reasons for wanting to move and to “find myself” through discovering places. You’ve helped me realize that my committed self won’t be found in a place outside of me, but rather internally. Showing up as our true selves will lead to the discovery of who we are, and we can take that knowing wherever we go. Thank you!
Love how you phrased this! Yes!! We discover who we are by showing up as our true selves and not shape-shifting to "fit in". I used to think that to discover myself I had to discover the world, but I came to realize that we discover ourselves in relation to others -- when we stay true to who we are. Thank you for sharing your thoughts Belinda!
Omgaaaah this spoke to me. As I'm currently in this cycle of "I need to leave this place to find myself and my place" and have this creeping suspicion that its more about sitting with myself, committing, and allowing myself to be known by me and the other. This was right on time!
I'm glad you could relate 🥹 You're 100% correct. Thank you for commenting Tavia ♥️
I’m reading this article in bed in a town I’ve been wanting to leave for the last 5 years (as a Korean american expat in Germany) and can relate to your story completely. For me, it’s been about committing as well as surrendering to a higher power that’s to teach me something i need to learn in this lifetime. To make peace with yearning, and yet be present to what is now and transient. That what I ‘think’ of something, someone or place is not all it is. On a practical level, my kids are growing up here and bc they see it as their home, it’s growing into a home for me. Still I have a sense of ‘homesickness’ that’s ever present, sometimes more sometimes less. I think commitment plays a huge role, to become an active creative participant in one’s life.. so thanks for this reminder!
I can totally picture you in bed reading this and writing your comment ♥️ Thank you for sharing. I have a guess that for expats like us, we live in constant "in between", not fully from where we came from, not fully where we are. But I agree with what you said about surrendering and being present. It makes a big difference once we decide to stay present, open, and let things unfold without second doubts. Thank you for sharing Kathy!
This article is incredible! So good to read it, it resonates to me so much. This constant urge of finding the right place to fit it but in reality we’re just running from us and from our imperfections. The true beauty is know how to deal with vulnerability and still be happy and fulfilled. Thank you so much for this!
I'm glad it resonated with you Karla!! Thank you for sharing this!!
It really feels that this article was written for me 🥹 Thank you so much for sharing this, I’ve never seen anyone else do it. And it also helps so much to know that I’m not the only one who feels this way 🙏🏻❤️
Oh Chara, thank you for sharing how this felt for you 🫶 You're definitely not alone in this journey. I'm glad you found it helpful :)
For me, I’m 60 now, which I can’t believe, it’s been about connecting to my joy and happiness. To living in the moment as much as possible and no matter how simple, mundane or sometimes absolutely miserable or heartbreaking life has been…to keep and cherish the beauty of life. To stay connected to my joy, my happiness and yes my authenticity. It became less about outer and more about inner. I can make any place I live beautiful and cozy no matter how huge or how humble. I can be just as happy on a road trip or a far away trip. Choosing the people you are willing to spend your precious time with is everything. Solitude is everything. Surrender is everything. Loved your article and thoughts! Thank you!❤️🙏
I love what you said about finding joy inward instead of externally to you. This realization is life changing. Thank you for sharing Coreen ❤️🙏
Loved - and saved this article. For me Freedom is about knowing yourself, being able to choose who do you want to work/be with, how you want to make things differently and the pace of that. Definetely is commitment, not the opposite. Most times I was a prisoner of my own self-sabotaging, procrastination - and that can be paralyzing.
I would tell my young self that it would be ok. That it would be worth it, the self-knowing is sometimes hurtful but the only way to find freedom. And the commitment should always be with yourself first.
Wise words ♥️
Loved this. I spent 15 years on the move in Europe. Home in New Zealand now but ... I still hadn't worked this out. And I think there are rather big elements of truth for me too. So I'll just sit with it a while, 'it's about being comfortable enough with yourself that you can show up as yourself'. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for commenting ❤️ I’m glad this resonated with you. And by the way, NZ has such a special place in my heart. I lived there when I was 17 for a high school exchange. I wish I can go back one day to visit ☺️
It was lovely to read you had lived in New Zealand, and enjoyed it. Where, if that's not too personal :-) I finally found home at the very top of the South Island, in Golden Bay ... and it hasn't been difficult to find joy & delight here. I had wondered if I would ever recover from loving my life in Italy.
I lived in Auckland, and did a bit of traveling through the south island! So beautiful. Italy sounds amazing, have only been there for holidays, but I can imagine how lively it must be. I think they are different places but each one with its unique beauties and delights!
I loved reading this and it’s made me think of my own reasons for wanting to move and to “find myself” through discovering places. You’ve helped me realize that my committed self won’t be found in a place outside of me, but rather internally. Showing up as our true selves will lead to the discovery of who we are, and we can take that knowing wherever we go. Thank you!
Love how you phrased this! Yes!! We discover who we are by showing up as our true selves and not shape-shifting to "fit in". I used to think that to discover myself I had to discover the world, but I came to realize that we discover ourselves in relation to others -- when we stay true to who we are. Thank you for sharing your thoughts Belinda!
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