Thank you Nathalia for this beautiful article. I have to say your words resonated with me. I am scared to fall in love again in case I get hurt or left, I’ll work on it.
Thank you Tammy!! and yeh, the questions are fun! I think it's put on the context of romantic love, but I think they are also good questions to go through with anyone you want to build a deeper connection, like family members and friends :)
"What's one way you protect yourself from being truly seen? Or have you ever pushed someone away because they felt too safe?"
-One way I protect myself from being truly seen is by keeping my deepest thoughts and pain to myself. I let people see the parts of me that feel “okay,” but I hold back the broken parts because I’m afraid they’ll leave once they understand me fully. I keep some parts of myself hidden, not because I don’t trust people, but because I’m still learning how to feel safe being fully seen. And yes, I have pushed someone away when they felt too safe—because safety meant they were close enough to see my wounds, and that scared me more than being alone. I'm I cooked????????????!
Oh zay, I can relate to this more than I would like to admit. I like that you say that "you're still learning how to feel safe being fully seen". Because that's it. Sometimes, I still enter some anxious states when I have to share parts of me to my loved ones that I think will be rejected. But this is the only real way to "test" love. Love can only exist in truth. And our path to let ourselves be loved by others, is to learn to love ourselves first. I learned that I only fear rejection from others about the parts that I reject or judge in myself. So, no you're not cooked, you're hurt. And letting yourself be loved is one of the most magical things to heal these wounds. Even if it scares a little or a lot. Sending love your way ❤️
Thank you Nathalia for this beautiful article. I have to say your words resonated with me. I am scared to fall in love again in case I get hurt or left, I’ll work on it.
Thank you for your comment Lea 🫶 I'm glad that this spoke to you and inspired you to let yourself be seen again. Sending love!
Wow ok. Might have to ask Mareike these questions ❤️
You should! haha it's so fuuuun
Was very nice to read it 🤍
I'm glad you enjoied it! 💜
great read! ... and great questions!
Thank you Tammy!! and yeh, the questions are fun! I think it's put on the context of romantic love, but I think they are also good questions to go through with anyone you want to build a deeper connection, like family members and friends :)
"What's one way you protect yourself from being truly seen? Or have you ever pushed someone away because they felt too safe?"
-One way I protect myself from being truly seen is by keeping my deepest thoughts and pain to myself. I let people see the parts of me that feel “okay,” but I hold back the broken parts because I’m afraid they’ll leave once they understand me fully. I keep some parts of myself hidden, not because I don’t trust people, but because I’m still learning how to feel safe being fully seen. And yes, I have pushed someone away when they felt too safe—because safety meant they were close enough to see my wounds, and that scared me more than being alone. I'm I cooked????????????!
Oh zay, I can relate to this more than I would like to admit. I like that you say that "you're still learning how to feel safe being fully seen". Because that's it. Sometimes, I still enter some anxious states when I have to share parts of me to my loved ones that I think will be rejected. But this is the only real way to "test" love. Love can only exist in truth. And our path to let ourselves be loved by others, is to learn to love ourselves first. I learned that I only fear rejection from others about the parts that I reject or judge in myself. So, no you're not cooked, you're hurt. And letting yourself be loved is one of the most magical things to heal these wounds. Even if it scares a little or a lot. Sending love your way ❤️